Weekly Environment – My backyard

All right this picture isn’t exactly of my backyard, but it is only a thirty minute drive to get to this location on the side of the Columbia river, so I consider it my backyard. The Columbia, the mountains, the hiking paths, the ski runs, the lakes; I consider all of these to be a part of my “location environment”: the broad area where I live that has a direct affect on how I live.

I need to be IN nature to be truly happy. I didn’t fully realize this until Ashlea and I packed up and moved out of the big city to Rossland, BC. Living in Calgary, nature was always close to us, but we still lived IN the city. It turns out close doesn’t work for me, I need to live in nature, not near it.

Rossland and the surrounding area are the biggest space in my personal geography, but this space defines so much of who I am, how I live, and really provides the overall context for all of the other spaces that make up my personal geography. Shifting my life from the city to the mountains is one of the most important changes I have made and this decision continues to affect all aspects of my personal geography.

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Friday TED video – February 26

A shorter TED video on perspectives. Although short, it still gets you thinking, which is what is so wonderful about TED videos. Watch…..then think. See what comes up for you.

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Energy, Tasks & being a superhero

It’s 2pm.   Only 2pm.  When I checked the clock a few minutes ago I expected it be closer to 5 or 6pm, because I’ve been buried in productivity today.  I love this feeling, where i’ve accomplished what my SNS group, The Fun Girls, calls “hard things”.  Several of them, I lost track of time, and I feel great.

These actions are what Jeremie calls “Energy Giving” tasks.  To  practice this requires some mindfulness, to connect emotions and motivation with the items on your action list.

Jeremie has taught me that generally there are two types of actions, or tasks:   Energy giving and Energy taking.

Energy giving tasks are those tasks that give you a real sense of accomplishment. Tasks which feel good…no, feel GREAT to complete and mark of the list.  When I complete an energy giving task, I feel a bit like a super hero – chest puffed out et all.

This morning I completed a long-standing job application (the position is in Edmonton, hence my procrastination). It required me to dig deep to begin the application.  I created a way to actually have fun with it, thereby creating a energy where it was once drained.
Examples from my fellow fun girls include Crystal breaking down her goal of selling some yarn into little, manageable tasks.  Caro has a mirror to hang, and Debbie has recently completed the God Father of all Procrastinated tasks:  She disposed of an old, broken oven that was too big to remove without breaking apart.  (GO DEBBIE!)

Planning energizing actions into my day is a tool I’ve used to manage procrastination and get things done.
the delicious sense of  productivity created by knocking those hard things off the list maximizes energy that can be channeled into completing more tasks.
Another example is a few months ago I had a long list of cold calls to make.  I know I’ll receive some empathy when I say I was not wanting to do them.

These cold calls are a textbook example of an energy taking task.  I was tired just thinking about making them – they’re the mental equivalent of shoveling snow.

Don’t want to do it but it needs to get done.

I sat down to work, made a list of all the calls to make that day.  Surfed the internet, answered some email, and took a nap.   The calls did not get done.

The next day, I sat down at my desk again, intending to start those calls.  I looked at the list and took a moment to mindfully recognize why I didn’t want to make them.  There was really no sense of accomplishment from looking at that list.  Instead, I spent the morning doing some much procrastinated housework.  I cleaned the floors, dusted bookshelves, de-cat haired every last inch of my space.

I felt great when it was completed and used that sense of accomplishment to sit down and make calls.  I worked for six hours that day, and when I finished the list I created a new one.

I hope you get a sense of how using your to-do list can create energy that will help you achieve your goals and get in touch of your inner Super hero of accomplishment.  Everybody has procrastinated items on their to-do list – those long forgotten about items that seem insurmountable.  What’s on your list and how can you use it to create more energy for your self??

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Out of balance to get into balance

So much of today’s self help and personal-improvement writing centers around the idea of work- life balance. I have written about it here on Sunday Night Success, and I work on this with many of my clients.

In the past few weeks while working with one of my clients, and just last week in my own life, an interesting challenge to this idea of work-life balance has presented itself:

Is it worth it to live your life out of balance for a planned period of time, so that your life becomes more in balance later?

Counting commitments

To give you an idea of where this post comes from, my current commitments include my private practice clients, my corporate clients in the US, and the work I do helping a coach in Vancouver. I also teach on call, usually one day a week. Did I mention I am working on a book idea?

Things have been great lately. I enjoy all of the work I am doing, I am spending some great time with my family, and having a lot of fun. However, the family finances are still in a bit of flux. I am all right with this, my wife is feeling a little insecure and would love to build up some savings.

Too much on your plate, but that’s OK

Last week I was presented with the possibility of taking on a half-time job teaching math at the high school down the street in my community.

This was not part of the plan.

Taking on a half-time teaching job while working on all of my other projects will definitely tip my work-life balance in the direction of work, something I am not a big fan of doing.

Here is the thing, the teaching job is for four months, it ends in June. The combined income from my work as a coach and my work as a half-time teacher would put my family in the best financial position it has been in the past three years. We would be able to put some savings in the bank. We would be able to buy a dishwasher (an important environment for both my wife and I with a 2 year old son). We would have some protection so that I could focus more on all my other projects without worrying about finances.

Worth it?

Can too much be a good thing, at least for awhile?

This is a tough one to answer when you are living in the situation. My first response is: yes, totally worth it. As long as you set a time limit for yourself and don’t get caught out of balance for an extended period of time, then living out of balance can be a good thing.

Living out of balance can challenge you. Living out of balance can help evolve you. Living out of balance can help you clarify what you really want out of life. Living out of balance can make the return to balance sustainable.

My second response is: nice rationalization buddy, way to convince yourself.

Living out of balance can stress your relationships. Living out of balance can stress you out. Living out of balance can exhaust you. Living out of balance can trap you so you never return to balance.

Living out of balance. Viable strategy or rationalization? What is your answer to the question:

Is it worth it to live your life out of balance for a planned period of time, so that your life becomes more in balance later?

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Weekly (missing) environment – dishwasher

When scanning the different spaces in your personal geography you are looking for the supportive environments that you already have in place, supportive environments that you are missing, non-supportive environments that you can change, and non-supportive environments that you need to eliminate.

A dishwasher falls into number two for my family: a supportive environment that is missing.

Many will argue that you don’t need a dishwasher, and for many that may be true. However, when my wife and I review the amount of time, and the amount of energy that we spend (all right mostly my wife at this point, I am working and running my business) on cleaning dishes it is huge.

Remember my two year old son Fionn, from last week?

The amount of energy and time we spend on cleaning dishes is huge.

A dishwasher will be a supportive environment that gives us this time and energy back, energy that we can use on far more important things in our life.

Now we just need to pick a brand and find someone to install it.

What is a missing environment in your personal geography? How much time and energy would you get back in your life if you filled this empty environment? Do you have a recommendation for a good dishwasher?

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Friday TED video – February 19

This week’s TED video had a big impact on my own creative thinking as I work through my idea of personal geography. Check out the intriguing art of Tom Shannon then continue reading below.

In the video Tom Shannon discusses the unseen fields interacting in the universe and how these invisible forces help him to craft his art. This is how I see the concept of personal geography: all of the different seen and unseen spaces and forces that are helping you to craft your life.

You can simply allow these forces to guide your life or, and for me this is a more empowering view, you can take control of designing the spaces and forces in your life so that your personal geography is not simply a response to circumstances, but is intelligently crafted.

Tom Shannon’s art provides an excellent image of this concept. He uses the natural forces of the universe to create his art, but he also adds his own control over the designs through the creation of his pendulum. He is using the natural spaces and forces to his advantage by designing how they interact with his art.

How can you design the spaces and forces of your personal geography to positively interact with your life?

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Personal Geography Newsletter #1 Conversation

I am still in the process of figuring out how I want to create the conversation around the personal geography newsletter. So, for issue number one, and maybe more after that if this seems to work, I have created this post to share your ideas about what you read in the newsletter.

Please, share your thoughts on the first newsletter below so we can get the conversation started.

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(Too) Comfortable with success

I have had a fabulous start to 2010:

  • I have picked up work with two different coaching organizations providing coaching and writing services.
  • I have maintained a small number of clients in my private coaching practice.
  • I am now supplying the majority of my family’s income through my new adventure as a coach.
  • I have grown and continue to grow the reader base of Sunday Night Success.
  • Everything has been going better than “according to plan”.

    Funny how that is such a precarious place to be.

    Positive results and silly thoughts

    With all of these positive results I made a decision a couple of weeks ago that I would put building my private practice on hold and focus on my contract work. At the time it made perfect sense: the contract work is paying my bills and a little bit more, it is most important, full steam ahead.

    Which was followed by an even sillier thought: I can start building my private practice again if the contract work slows down or comes to an end.

    All the cogs in the machine

    Most of you have already seen the complete gap in my thinking process, funny how it took me a few weeks, and some prodding from my SNS group and my own coach, to catch on.

    Why stop helping people just because things are going well?

    Why wait for something to go wrong before building up another income stream for my business and my family?

    The contract work is great, but it is only a piece of the overall vision for success. I am having a lot of fun with the work and learning a lot. The opportunities just keep opening up and it is fabulous. However, that does not mean I don’t need the other piece of the vision, my private practice, spinning inside the machine.

    If I am having great success with one aspect of the plan, why not work on having even more success by continuing to work on all the parts?

    Gratitude for my support network

    The thanks for this realization goes to those relationships that provide me with the support that has helped me with my recent success. Without their questions and gentle (and sometimes not so gentle) prodding I would be moving forward but leaving some important pieces behind.

    Now it is time to refocus and get back on track.

    What is one area of your own life that you may be feeling too comfortable with? How would things look different if you shook things up and put some energy back into this area?

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    Weekly Environment – my son Fionn

    This week I wanted to move the focus away from my physical space and give an example of a supportive environment in my relationship space. As much as I believe people forget to pay attention to the effect their different physical spaces have on their success, I think people spend even less time thinking of how the people in their lives are helping or hindering how effectively they move forward.


    Fionn (the “o” is silent)

    My son is by far one of my most supportive environments even though, at times, he tends to completely exhaust me on a physical level, he does nothing but provide me with energy to work on all of my projects and move towards my dreams. The birth of my son completely changed my perspective on all of my different spaces. My previous goals, ambitions, and dreams all took a 180 or at least 90 degree turn when Fionn came into my life.

    How does my son act like a supportive environment?

    - Whenever I forget why I am doing something, a few minutes with him reminds me of my purpose.
    - Whenever I spend too much time on work, time with him reminds me of what is important.
    - When I am having a bad day, stopping what I am doing and hanging out with my son is a sure-fire cure for the blues.

    Fionn is a perfect example of how just spending time with the right people in your life can provide endless energy to keep you working towards your dreams.

    Think of somebody in your own life who is a positive energy source. What could you do to spend more time with this person receiving that positive energy?

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    Friday TED video

    I have been spending some time lately moving and reorganizing my office. Not surprisingly, I have also been spending a lot of time thinking about how I can use space to my advantage instead of “fitting” myself into space.

    Joshua Prince-Ramus has taken this idea of using space versus fitting into space to the extreme with his architecture project turning a regular theater into a theatrical machine:

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